If there is one thing parents are likely to disagree on it’s how to discipline the children. It is one of the biggest reasons parents argue, but effective discipline requires parents to maintain a united front. Parenting expert, Alyson Schafer discusses some ideas to take the stress out of discipline.
When two different people from diverse back backgrounds come together they will often have different disciplining methods. It can actually be quite hard on a marriage if balance isn’t achieved.
Linda and David are having a hard time finding a happy medium disciplining their four year old daughter. Linda likes to do things “by the book” and is working on maintaining consistency by following through with what’s happening at school. David, on the other hand, works crazy hours and likes to come home and play with their daughter which interferes with Linda’s disciplining. At the beginning David was too hard on their daughter so Linda asked him to ease up, but now he worries that he isn’t taken seriously.
Since moms often take the lead during the pregnancy dads want to step in after the birth. Unfortunately they get overly criticized for even the slightest errors which make them hesitant to help in the future.
Remember what you love about each other and celebrate your differences. Agree to disagree on certain things and the kids will understand. It’s a clear reflection of how society works.
The most problematic time of day for Linda and David is bed time. Since he hasn’t spent any time with her during the day David wants to enjoy some time together when he gets home. She can get a little rowdy and forgets who the parent is.
Take turns alternating who gets the kids ready for bedtime. So long as they follow through with putting the kids down they can do it however they want. They may be totally different and child may prefer one way of the other which makes finding a good way easy. Just don’t undermine each other’s instructions. If you find that one of you has an easier time with tucking her in then they can take care of that. The other one can take care of another activity, like homework or getting ready in the morning.