Tim and Jennifer’s “homework” for finding the spark in their marriage again.

Sex therapist Trina Read talks about what can sink a person’s libido and what you can do to revive your sex drive.

1. Take time away from the kids and rediscover who you are as a couple. Children turn couples into parents, and sometimes get in the way of feeling like a couple again.
2. Talk about your expectations for sex. There are countless factors that can sink your libido (stress, exhaustion), but make sure you communicate this with your partner so they don’t wonder if you’re still attracted to them.
3. Distinguish between sex and sensuality. Remind yourself that not every kiss or touch has to lead to sex. This takes the pressure of those moments of pure intimacy, and can help revive your drive.