Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Attention Defecit Hyperactivity Disorder can be debilitating to the person living with it, but there are important ways that family and friends can offer support. Therapist Joe Rich shares his best tips for helping your loved one, and it starts with educating yourself.
Educate Yourself and Those Around You
Educate yourself and those around you on the issues, the treatment options and possible outcomes, side effects etc. Ask questions throughout the process.
Learn To Listen
You are the parent, sibling, friend, not the mental health professional. Allow the person to talk about fears, progress, set backs, feelings and more
understand the person is likely already feeling self-conscious, and ashamed that they are not well. They may also be feeling "crazy" so judgements will not be helpful.
Try the "Figure Out and Fix" Approach
Reassure the person by using a "figure out and fix approach" that allows for them to figure out what is wrong before they engage in any treatment. (Joe Rich expands on how to do this in the video above)
Build A Team
Build a team of friends, family and loved ones that consists of those who are non-judgemental, accepting and helpful.
How family members can help those suffering from OCD
Not just for them, but also for yourself, and your relationship with the person. OCD is just a one aspect of who they are.
How family members can help those suffering from ADHD
"Read books, go to lectures, talk to experts, talk to fellow parents of children with ADHD. Know exactly what ADHD is with confidence."
"Believe that if the person with ADD/ADHD could simply 'stop,' or 'behave,' or 'focus better,' they absolutely would!"
Know It's Not Your Fault
"Don't personalize the behaviour of the child as 'we are not good parents' or 'our child needs to behave.'"
Meet With Other Parents
"Often, the best resource for ideas and support is with fellow parents who can personally relate to your experience and your struggles."
Consider the Challenge of Self-Regulation
"Consider the challenges ahead, in the world of computers and the internet, where self-regulating his or her behaviour is essential for success. Support these challenges by engaging teachers, social workers, occupational therapists, and ABA specialists who can make suggestions both simple and complex.
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